When it comes to developing any skill, especially in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, consistent practice makes a world of difference. However, after a busy day at school or a training session at the academy, it can sometimes be tough for students to find the motivation to practice on their own.

To help keep your child motivated and engaged with their Jiu-Jitsu training at home, here are three simple steps you can use to encourage them. These tips not only make practice feel like their decision, but also help them build a positive inner dialogue about their training.

Step 1: Ask About the ONE Thing They Really Want to Achieve in Jiu-Jitsu

Begin by sparking a conversation with your child about their main goal in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. You might hear responses like “to get better,” “to earn my stripe,” “to have fun,” or even “I don’t know.” The key is to ask specifically for the ONE thing they want to ACHIEVE. Using “ONE” and “ACHIEVE” helps them focus their thoughts:

• “ONE” encourages them to choose what matters most to them.
• “ACHIEVE” directs their focus to a specific goal, such as mastering a technique, earning a stripe, or improving their balance.

By narrowing down their goals in this way, they’ll have a clearer sense of purpose, which can make practicing feel more meaningful.

Step 2: Have Them Imagine How They’ll Feel When They Reach Their Goal

Next, ask them to describe how they’ll feel when they achieve their goal. Encouraging them to connect emotionally to their goal can be a powerful motivator. For example, if their goal is to earn a new stripe, ask them to imagine the pride and excitement they’ll feel when they succeed. By visualizing these positive emotions, they’ll be more motivated to put in the effort, as this step triggers “feel-good” chemicals in their brain that reinforce their drive to succeed.

Step 3: Ask Them What ONE Action They Can Take Right Now to Work Toward Their Goal

This final step is all about putting plans into action. Ask your child what one small action they can take right now to get closer to their goal. It could be as simple as practicing a guard pass, focusing on their balance, or visualizing a particular move. For younger children, you might need to guide them or offer suggestions to get started. By emphasizing the “RIGHT NOW” aspect, you’re encouraging immediate action, which helps them build momentum and stay engaged in their practice.

These steps can make a big difference in helping your child stay motivated with their Jiu-Jitsu practice at home. Not only are they helpful for Jiu-Jitsu, but you may also find that they work well for encouraging focus in other areas, like schoolwork or chores.

We hope these tips help you have a positive conversation with your child about their Jiu-Jitsu goals! Let us know how it goes—we’d love to hear your feedback.

Best regards,

Professor Jason